Living being bullied (National Centre for Educational Statistics,

Living
our lives in the 20th century, social issues such as bullying is
still a major problem occurring in our society. Not all people experienced the
situation of being bullied, but the unfortunate one may not be able to forget
this kind of predicament. Statistics shows that more than one out of every five
(20.8%) students report being bullied (National Centre for Educational Statistics,
2016). One might wonder, what are the factors that cause bullying? Some of the
reasons are due to problematic family, taking revenge and jealousy towards
victim.

 

One
of the factors that causes bullying is problematic family. “Children who bully
are more likely to come from family environments characterised by less
cohesion, expressiveness, organisation, control and social orientation (Bowers,
Smith, & Binney, 1994; Stevens, Bourdeaudhuij, & Ost, 2002). The quote
explains that a child who are not getting the attention and love that they
deserve are prone to bullying others. Myriad of problems inside a household can
be the reason for bullying such as a busy parent or a divorce parents. Parents
who are busy at work never have the time to spend with their children. Since
they could not get the attention they want from their parents, they seek it
from the teachers, and even among the peers by victimizing others. They might
be thinking that they can attract their parent’s attention towards them by
throwing tantrums among their peers. There is also a possibility of the child
imitating their parent’s violent actions which they observe in their own house.
A suitable example to be given is during family fights, between their mother
and father. The father could have hit the mother, causing their own child to
spectate and influencing the child to try it too on others. In conclusion, a
non-functioning family affects the child mentally, causing them to vent it on
others, by bullying.

 

Next,
some people bully others as a way of taking revenge. Usually, the bully is once
a victim themselves, getting bullied by the others. By holding onto the popular
phrase, “the table have turned” they victimize someone who looks physically
weaker, and mentally shaky to spout their anger. (Mark & Ratliffe, 2011).
Apparently, no solid reason is needed for the bully to pick on their victims,
leaving the clueless victims to ponder why they were chosen at the first place.
While there are people with physical strength, those who have a vast knowledge
in cyber world have their own ways of revenge. They do not have to waste their
energy walking around, instead they cause trouble to their victims by hacking
into their social media, using gadjet like laptops, computers, or even
smartphone. They spread false, negative rumours which could affect the victim’s
social life. (Hoff & Mitchell, 2009). This type of bully is called cyber
bullying, which is widely used for those who do not have the courage to bully
others physically. In a nutshell, bullying happens both in physical and in the
cyber world, with feeling of revenge.

 

 

The
third cause of bullying is the feeling of jealousy towards the victim.
According to Meyer-Adams & Conner (2008) “some of the things that make
people different are generally neutral characteristics, but some, like being
smart, focused, or creative often representing attributes that the bully wishes
they shared with their victims”. Hence, this so called “wishes” develop into
feeling of envy, resulting the victim to be bullied physically and mentally. There is also a probability of the bully sharing the
characteristic for which they are bullying on the victim such as knowledge or
even sports. By seeking to downgrade certain skills that is lacking in their
own victims, bullies try to create a more level playing field for their own
benefits. For instance, the victim was bullied due to the bullies’ failure to
compete in a fair and square way. As conclusion, the bullies might be targeting
the victims for any traits that they do or do not possess, due to jealousy.

 

To
conclude, dysfunctional family, feeling of revenge and envious toward victim
are three reasons on why bullying occurs. It happens anywhere, everywhere,
without some of us realizing it. Proactive steps and solutions should be taken
by now to lessen the threat of this social issue. And that is the reason why
Mahatma Gandhi once said, “be the change you want to see”.